Oh, the beautiful world of social media. A world that exposes our current generation to so many more ideas and opinions than our parents, or grandparents, even had. This blog post is going to be on something I don’t think many people talk about or address, but something which deeply confuses me a lot of the time. Facebook posts.
We all know them posts on Facebook? The ones that so many people seem to relate to- mostly about relationships, break ups, and well… anything in between. Posts that constantly talk about your girlfriend being “your girl” and feeding female expectations of what you should now expect in a relationship- even at the age of 16/17.
Let’s look at this one for example:
A lot of girls nowadays complain about not having a “perfect” boyfriend when there are good lads out there believe it or not….. THAT’S the reality of it all. Stop labelling all boys our age as the same just because of some bad past experiences, it’s getting boring.
Not ‘every girl’ because believe it or not, not every girl is with lying / cheating boyfriends. What a foreign concept….. there are actually genuinely nice lads out there who don’t make excuses all the time.
I’m not saying that these posts are awful or completely wrong. Some make valid points, and points in which I agree with and occasionally may share on my own Facebook. I would be a hypocrite if I said that I didn’t share around these posts just as much as the next person.
But these Facebook posts have really made me think about relationships within our society in this modern day and about the expectations that people get- possibly due to these posts.
These posts constantly go about what you should and shouldn’t do in a relationship. Posts like, “if you don’t text your girl back when you’re with your bros, then why are you with her?” Personally, I think this is ridiculous. Yeah, this may appeal to some girls in relationships, but if my boyfriend was with his mates, I wouldn’t expect him to text me 24/7. I’d expect him to go to his mates, socialise, and have a good time without his time being consumed by me.
Maybe I’m looking at these posts too deeply, but I do believe these posts have influenced current expectations in relationships. Girls nowadays expect to be called “baby girl” or whatever, due to these posts feeding that idea. My advice: don’t let these posts influence your expectations in a relationship. Sure, some of them are relateable and true, but if a man doesn’t buy you ten thousand roses or treat you to the latest NAKED palette; then that doesn’t make him the worst boyfriend in the world.
Shall we also talk about the new “trend” that surrounds ‘psycho’ girlfriends who hack their boyfriends social media accounts just so they can check on them? Facebook posts literally romanticise this…. but I think this trend says it all regarding the point I’m trying to make.
I feel that nowadays, we are fed so many lies and expectations regarding what to expect from relationships, and some of this has to do with these kind of posts constantly circling the internet.
Girls, and boys, don’t let the internet construct your relationship. Don’t feel like you need to live up to the standards of these posts. I mean, these posts tell you that you should hate your ex… but is that really true? Let your relationship flow, and if I were you, ignore these posts as best as you can. The world is not a fairy tale like they try to claim. Do whatever makes you happy in your relationship, not what the internet says makes ‘relationship goals’ or a good relationship. You’ll know when you have that yourself.
Love and happiness always,
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