body positivity | Empowerment | Motivation

Making the most of ‘me’

By on September 4, 2017

Like many other people, I have grown up having my fair share of self-confidence issues. At times, I refused to look myself in the mirror. Or get in pictures with friends. It got to the point where it was so exhausting hating the body that I lived in, but I didn’t see another way out. View this as cliche as you want to, but occasionally these issues do need to be addressed.

So what happened? Did I magically wake up one day and think, “You know what? I actually like the body I live in.” Definitely not. Because the fact is, it took me a long ass time to accept myself.

No matter how many times friends and family members would compliment me, I never saw it. It was literally just words that correlated to no meaning. I was so set on the fact that I was ‘this’ and ‘that,’ and nothing was going to change my point of view.

The key thing that enabled me to gain confidence was patience within myself. We all seem to think that you’ll be ‘told you’re good enough’ and then automatically feel it. It may be easy to believe that it is the sort of thing that changes overnight, but it certainly isn’t. Bit by bit, I picked things about myself that I hated; and spun them into positives.

I realised that I can’t change how I look. And for a while, that was the sad reality of it all. I spent so long wanting to compare myself to others, and sitting in the background because my friends were ‘prettier’ than me and had ‘nicer hair.’ But I’m just me. I’m my own little unique living thing. I wear glasses because I can’t see. And that’s okay. I have naturally big thighs, and that’s okay. Sometimes my hair does this weird thing where it doesn’t want to style, and that’s okay. I have a baby face. I don’t have any stand out features. But the fact of the matter is that I am not the prettiest dime in the box, and I never, and still don’t, aim to be.

There’s a clear difference between obnoxiously loving yourself, and loving yourself in a way of acceptance and confidence. Because I am just me *shrugs.* I’m dorky. I like making people laugh. I like making memories with my best friends. I like travelling. I like embarrassing myself on the internet. I like how yeah I may not have any common sense, but I’m sure as hell not stupid. I like having the ability to be that one person who will make people laugh when the room may feel tense.

For so long, I lived my life beating myself up over something which was completely out of my control. No surgery, make-up, or anything else will change the fundamental qualities of you. Mate, embrace that shit. Embrace the small things. The big things. Even the in-between quirky things. Because I’m sick and tired of seeing people feel less than worthy because standards of beauty or so high nowadays. Or because we’re all expected to act a certain way, rather than simply embracing ! who ! we ! are ! I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and I don’t care. The main reasoning behind this post is to acknowledge the fact that I am me. And whoever that ‘me’ is, is okay. Because I’m different. And everyone truly is unique.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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Me & my life | Motivation | Uncategorized

Why I chose to revamp my life

By on August 14, 2016

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Life is funny isn’t it? We spend our lives being our own individual self with our own personalities, likes and dislikes. A couple of months ago especially, was when I decided it was time to revamp my life and give myself a new perspective on life in general.

I decided that it was time for a change- and that includes a change in myself and my mindset. I’ve always been quite a sensitive person, but I’d like to think that over the past month or so; I have slowly formed a ‘thicker skin’ and not let things get to me as much as they used to. Of course, I still get hurt and upset about some things; but certainly not as much as I used to. I’m so glad that I’m at a point where I’m so confident in myself, that other perceptions of me simply don’t matter anymore.

I always used to look at people and be like, “How can I be as confident as you? Why can’t I have no insecurities and be like the ‘confident’ people?” In fact, I read this from one of my diary entries from January of this year when I was feeling low one night. I soon realised that the only person who can be in charge of my self confidence is me. Fast forward nearly 8 months and I have never been so confident and empowered in my own body. Considering I hated looking at myself in the mirror three months ago (sounds like a cliche, but trust me it was bad), I am at a point now where I’m happy to go swimming because my body is my own and I’m super proud of it.

When it comes to communicating with people in general, I love it. I thrive off meeting new people, and making new friends. I realised that I not only want to surround myself with people, but positive influences in my life. That meant separating myself from people who are simply toxic and who I don’t need around me. Trust me, having the strength to do that is the best decision I ever made. I now have the bestest friends I could ever wish for in my life (personal shoutout to Caitlin, Richard, Chloe, Myah, Alex, Callum, Jess, Georgia, Koryn and co; you all know who you are). I’m also constantly adding new amazing people into my life, and it’s so uplifting to have people who accept me, for me. 

When I say I couldn’t be happier with my life at the moment, I mean it. I am so overwhelmed with my progress and how much work I have mentally put in to be this happy and calm. And why I chose to revamp my life? Because I soon began to realise that my life is my own, and no one else’s. I am my own longest commitment at the end of the day; so why not make my life the best it can be? I want to be nothing but kind and compassionate to others. I want to forgive, but not be naive. I want to be proud of the person I’m becoming, and I want to keep doing better and being better.

So what’s next for me? The simple answer is, I don’t know. But I know that I will continue to be the best person I can be. I don’t care how cliche that sounds, but I have realised over the past few months that I can be whoever I want to be, and even though my personal goals may change again in another few months, where I am now is the best place I’ve ever been.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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