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Relationships: An update

April 19, 2017


Okay, maybe I should’ve renamed the title ‘an update of my single life,’ but why not throw in a bit of imagination… right?

The fact is, yes I’m still single, and yes I’m still happy blogging about it. But I’ve recently been thinking about how I deal with being single, rather than how it feels.

I’m one of those’ singles who actually likes it. I like my alone time as it is, so being single is like second nature to me. No, that’s not sarcastic as much as it sounded. Rather, I find it rewarding. A way in which I can find out more about myself, before anyone else finds out those parts of me. A space for me to grow, before I have the opportunity to grow with someone else.

But how do I deal with being single? Honestly, not very well. I’m ‘that’ single (yes, I used that phrase again), that would rather act like they don’t care. Someone of the opposite sex showing any type of interest in me? I shut them off. Someone of the opposite sex tries to make effort with me? I shut them off even more. I don’t know if it’s because I’m stubborn, afraid of feelings, would rather be ‘sassy’ like I don’t care; or a mix of all three.

I don’t know if I’ve developed feelings for anyone anymore because I am so used to getting let down. I hate letting my walls down for someone, so I simply don’t do it anymore. I make life hard work, for myself and for the other person, that in the end it just simply isn’t worth it. I’m too stubborn for my own good sometimes, and really don’t take feelings or anything seriously anymore. That may have something to do with past experiences (*cough, cough*), but hey, my life motto at the moment seems to go something like, “Who knows?”

When the right person comes along, and puts up with my stubborn behaviour, then great. Maybe it’s meant to be. Maybe I’m playing a game that isn’t fair, or maybe I’m simply playing myself out of potential relationships. Who knows? I guess I’ll update you if anything interesting happens; but until then, here’s to being stubborn and being single. Maybe I’ll change one day for someone who deserves it.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

  1. I’ve always believed you can never truly be happy with someone else until you’ve learnt to be happy on your own (coming from someone who didn’t find her someone else until I was 27)

  2. this is so important..I relate as well. I’m so used to getting let down and that led to negative thoughts about myself and “what could I have done differently?” I took a break from chasing and wishing and wanting so I could focus on bettering and loving myself before loving someone else. loved this xx

  3. Love this post. I’ve recently become single and although it’s lonely and hard sometimes, I also enjoy doing things and living by myself. If a person is right for you then I believe it will work and just feel right! It’s something that shouldn’t be rushed. xx

  4. oh my gosh! You literally spoke out my mouth, i am literally in the same situation! I shut people down all the time, and i don’t know why either!! I loved reading this post so much!xx

  5. I am exactly the same way, as soon as someone show’s interest I just shut them down. I’ve been let down quite a bit by guys and so I think it’s just easier to pretend like I’d rather be single than have anyone show an interest in me

  6. Great post – I think it’s so important to be happy with yourself before being happy with someone else. it’s so cheesy but you have your whole life to find that special someone and be in a relationship, it sounds like you’re doing an awesome job of enjoying being single right now!
    Hels xx
    http://thehelsproject.com/

  7. I have never been in a relationship yet I can still relate to this on so many levels! I enjoy (NEED) my own space and alone time, I enjoy doing things on my own, and to be honest whenever someone shows at least the tiniest amount of interest in me I freak out and shut them off. This was something I used to feel bad about a couple of years ago, but now I’ve accepted the fact that this is just who I am, and I would much rather wait for the right person to whom let my walls down rather than go into a relationship just for the sake of it.

  8. Wow it looks like I’m looking my “romance-life” in someone’s life, hope we can find the right person in the right time

  9. I was the same way when I was single three years ago. You just need your time, lady! Cherish it and be true to what you’re feeling. The right person will come along and slip right past those feelings, just like my partner did with me 🙂

    Keep finding yourself!

    Amber || mylifeinlimbo.com

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