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Why I hate modern day dating

March 25, 2017


It’s been a while since I have done a ‘relationships’ themed blog post, but something has been stuck on my mind on repeat for a few weeks now which has to have it’s own escape.

It’s no secret that I suck when it comes to boys. I don’t know if it’s because I’m so stubborn that I would rather ‘keep myself to myself’ rather than let a boy even talk to me, or because I simply don’t believe anyone could be genuinely interested in me.

But you know, on them odd occasions where I do let someone in, the whole dating / texting thing annoys the shit out of me. All the games. How nothing is as simple as, “Hey, want to go for coffee sometime?” I like straight to the point. I like people who show interest because I always think the opposite.

Sure, the chase is fun. I like being able to chase someone, and have someone chase me. Dating is a game at the end of the day, but do I really want to play it? The fact that it is almost ‘forbidden’ to text someone back straight away because you’re seen as ‘too keen.’ Nah, I just happened to have my phone on me at the time. Just like if I don’t text you back after 3 hours, I was probably busy living my life.

Everything is so casual. It takes a lot for me to admit I like someone in that way (mainly because I’m too independent and stubborn for my own good), but when I do- it’s just another game. God forbid you text someone for weeks on end and you’re not allowed to have feelings. God forbid that you spend your time on texting someone, when at the end of it all, you’re the ‘crazy’ one for catching feelings- because it’s just harmless fun, right? It feels like dating is a mockery and it utterly angers me how people are shamed so much.

Look at break-ups for example. I seemed to have ‘forgotten’ that even though I got cheated on and hurt, I can’t actually show any emotion. I mean why do people hurt after break-ups anyway- just move on. Lol. That was clearly sarcastic, but you get my point. Let yourself fucking hurt, and then let yourself heal into a better person. And I am not ashamed that I have done just that. So fuck you to anyone who watched me hurt and rolled their eyes. Who cares? We’re all just emotionless robots, aren’t we? *rolls eyes.*

Well, it inspired this blog so there’s that.

And I guess that’s why I hate dating / talking / texting / anything relationship orientated. I . just . can’t . do . it . The pathetic games, the laughs when you get hurt. It all doesn’t seem worth it to loose myself in the process. Maybe I’m too stubborn. Maybe I’ll die single. But I’d rather be single then be caught up in constant games.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

  1. I love this! It’s so true. The way this generation is now it makes it so hard to know if someone is genuine or not. Nobody likes to simply say what they want anymore which could make everything that much easier. The one will find you girl, no worries!

  2. Modern day dating is definitely not a fun one… especially online dating apps. I know this, throughout high school I was the ONLY person in my friend group w/o boyfriends. I never had a boyfriend throughout high school. Then I decided to try a dating app and bam I just ran into such an amazing guy who is now the love of my life. I got lucky, but it happens, it will def. happen when you LEAST expect it!

  3. Eugh yes! I hate all the games now adays! I swear if me and my long term boyfriend broke up I’d just give up and admit myself to the single life! I hate all that I can’t text back and look eager! Great post girl
    PaleGirlRambling xo

  4. I agree Becca, I don’t like the game playing tactics. i haven’t dated in over 10 years and I don’t care. I know after you turn 30, your mind is more developed and expanded to thoroughly process guys full of bs and men who are sincerely genuine. Nice post:)

  5. Great post. I’ve been single for a year and a half. I feel like, in that time, I have tried every dating app under the sun and it has gotten me nowhere. I’m going to be covering my experiences on my blog in the near future. No matter how many times I delete the apps, though, they end up getting downloaded again as there’s not much chance of me meeting people in any other way. I think it’s just going to go downhill from here…

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  7. This is awesome. Thank you for sharing.
    I love being certified crazy, because when it comes to dating, now I throw caution to the wind: I told my current boyfriend that I was falling in love with him after three weeks of meeting and he told me he felt the same. Now we’re living together. My ex on the other hand, freaked out when I asked him if he wanted to be exclusive after 3 months and then freaked out again when I told him I loved him six months later. Then after two years together he freaked out about my wanting to move in together.
    My point is (apart from that I should’ve dumped my ex long before I did lol) is that not all guys are out to play games. My current boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and our relationship couldn’t be more different from my previous one xoxo

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