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Am I ashamed?

March 22, 2017


I really should be sleeping instead of writing this blog post as I have work early tomorrow morning (oops), however I felt so inspired so decided to grab my laptop quick and write about something that has been bugging me for a while. I never knew how to express this ‘thing that’s been bugging me’ until now, and in some ways I still don’t. This post will have no structure whatsoever, but there’s some things that I desperately need to get off my chest for my own sake. So here it goes (warning: there may be a bit of rambling, but who doesn’t love a good ol’ rambled post, eh?)

A lot of things have changed drastically in my life over the past couple of months or so, and things still seem to be rapidly changing as we speak. From friends, to what I do in my free time, to handling my mental health, even to me as a person. I don’t take well to change, which I guess is why I feel so encouraged in myself to write this blog post.

You see, one thing I seem to ask myself a lot is if I’m ashamed in myself. If I deserve to beat myself up over certain things, if I made the right decisions. Obviously with having generalised anxiety, it makes the whole process of figuring this out a lot harder, but I finally came to a conclusion. I live my life for myself with the intention of also putting others first unless it is toxic to me. If something is making me feel sad, or uncomfortable, or just doesn’t feel right anymore; then I have to stop beating myself up over making decisions for myself. Sometimes it doesn’t make me selfish, rather stop me from self destroying.

And then I think about the person I am becoming, and the choices I’ve made. You see, the things is, I always try to make the best decision and put others first. But that realistically is not always going to happen. I’ve said this before, but I have to make myself make mistakes sometimes so I can learn from them; and most importantly, grow.

And that’s another thing I want to address in this post, I am 18 years old. I am by no means experienced in anything in life, nor do I claim to be. I suck at relationships, and break-ups and talking to boys in general; but that’s because I’m still yet to grow. I make immature decisions and look back on them and think, “Really Becca? So mature.” But I’m growing. – And I’m not using this whole ‘growth’ thing as some sort of excuse either. That’s the beauty about living, is watching yourself grow due to your past self.

At the end of the day, I am not going to be exactly the same now as the person I’ll be in 10 years. Nor am I  exactly the same as I was even a year ago. I am developing for the better every day, and I want to work hard to get to who I want to be. I want to make people proud, and make myself proud. I don’t want to make the same mistakes I’ve made in the past. I want to look back on this blog post in 10-30 years and think, “I did it.”

So, going back to the question at the start of this post. Am I ashamed? In myself? In who I am? In who I’m becoming? Not at all. Because to me, being ashamed is looking at myself in a negative light. I don’t want to move backwards, rather forwards. I want to make a positive impact on myself, and those around me. I want to always do better, and be better. And for the majority of the past year, I’ve done just that. But everything takes time, and sometimes we just need to be patient with ourselves.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

  1. This is such a beautiful reflection. Keep growing and fighting sweetie. I can relate to a lot of this. I’m 18 but far from being a grown-ass adult (and honestly I probably never will be 100% mature) but that isn’t my goal either. I want to have an inner child and I want to laugh and have fun. It’s all about picking the things that matter to you most.

  2. I loved this, so true. As a 19 year old (one year older than you) I relate to this so much! I make so many mistakes and I’m nowhere near perfect but I can also feel myself getting stronger and wiser and learning. We’re so young and have so much further to go. Thanks for this inspirational post, loved it!
    Jas xx

  3. I really enjoyed reading this, you’ve pretty much put my everyday thoughts into words, but you’ve been braver and put it out there! Growing is great and we all do it, just like you I’m not the same person I was a month ago let alone a year ago. So continue to grow and be you and see where things take you, sometimes you have to learn to put yourself first no matter how selfish it feels 🎀

  4. This is such a beautifully written post! As someone who is nearly a decade older, I can tell you I still ask myself the same questions. Finding that balance between wanting to please and not upset people, whilst at the same time doing what’s right for me. I think that’s all you can do and the fact that you/we think about these things in the first place is actually the most important in defining who you are as a person. xx

  5. Never feel ashamed of yourself. I know the feeling of suffering from anxiety and how hard it makes life to deal with sometimes. Sometimes the random ups and downs can drive you insane and make you feel like “Is there something wrong with me?” Always love yourself, and the fact that you realize life changes, things change but it all allows you to grow is beautiful. Keep it up girl 🙂

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