I feel as though discovering ‘who you are’ is a big obstacle when it comes to life. I have certainly had my doubts in who I am, and I am still progressing even now into the person I want to become.
The thing with life is that there is no right or wrong way of doing things. You kind of just muddle through- and finding yourself can also be a bit like that. I have had many ‘trial and error’ moments where I’ve thought, “wait, this isn’t who I want to be.”
Throughout High School, I was always that kid at the back of the class that hardly talked to anyone, and just stuck to her own group of ‘friends.’ I found friendship especially challenging in my early teenage years, and for the first time in my life, I will openly come out and say that I was subject to months of bullying.
I figured that being mocked and ridiculed for who I was on a daily basis was normal. I put up with it all because I figured that I wasn’t worthy enough to have any ‘proper friends.’ I kind of figured that the people that were worthy of that were the ‘popular ones’- the people with their own cliques, and I ultimately was a shy outsider.
I soon began to realise that I was, and am, worth much more than that. It even got to one point in High School where I would have quite happily moved schools without a trace. I think a lot of what I went through has also contributed to my anxiety. I don’t want to go into anymore detail into what happened exactly- but in some ways, it made me stronger.
You are not a reflection of other people’s perceptions of you, but rather your own. I am a strong believer that finding confidence in yourself is also a fundamental part to becoming who you’re meant to be. If people choose to overlook your positive aspects- then that’s their problem. Honestly, I wish I was as confident in High School as I was in college. I wish I made as many friends in High School as college, and in some ways, I wish I had blossomed into myself sooner.
Although I have changed throughout the past three years, or even six months, I know and understand that there is still a long way to go. I will never be perfect, and that’s okay. I have done and said things that I deeply regret; but would you really be living if you never had those times?
For now, I am in a happy place with myself. It is the most liberating feeling hearing and seeing people from even High School acknowledge that I have changed. I’m not that ‘shy’ and ‘self conscious’ girl that sad quietly at the back of the class anymore. And I may not be the stubborn girl I am now in ten years time. Who knows.
I like to think of this as a sort of journey. If you think you know me, you most probably don’t. I am always changing and improving. I am always working on myself and working on who I am. Sometimes give people a chance though, it’s easy to forget that everyone is still ‘finding themselves’ at some point in their lives.
Love and happiness always,
xo, Becca
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i’ve definitely seen a huge confidence boost in you, which is amazing, i’m so happy that you’re happy and you already know this but you have my number if you ever need a chat!!
Thank you Conn!!!!!
We do the best we can with what we have at the time. A woman like me, at 49 is capable of handling bullying much differently than when I was a teenagers. I find as I have aged, I can look back and make sense of it all. And you are definitely right, everything that has happened to you makes you who you are now. What I know for sure at this age is that I don’t know much! Evolving is the only constant in this life. Love you insight and personal reflection. Kim
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I think it’s so amazing when people really find themselves and I feel as though I’ve seen your confidence really increase and that is just a great accomplishment already!
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I am so happy for you, I completely agree with the change quote!! It’s okay to change, I’m 100% not the same girl I was in highschool! I have grown and evolved and that’s okay!!!!
Great post, I hope 2017 can bring you more confidence xox
Well done for gaining that strength and confidence! Great post
This is such a wonderful post! We often think that finding ourselves means we’ll discover some end version of ourselves, but in truth, we are always in a state of change. What’s great about that is realizing we are works in progress and how okay that is. I love that you’ve found confidence, and that you can carry that with you on your journey of self. Thank you for writing this and sharing your experience!
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It’s the best feeling when you start to come into your own and build on your confidence. Super happy that you’ve started to find it and I hope it never stops!
Love this post so much! Change is good sometimes and I am so glad you are finding yourself and are happier!
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New reader here but this post really hit home – I, like you, suffered at secondary school and it wasn’t until I moved to college did I finally find some people who didn’t mock me for who I was. I think finding the right people amplifies who you are as a person as you’re finally free to be your true self.
I love this 💞 it’s so important to have self-worth and self-confidence – two of the most important things in life! x
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Loved this poat! I can kinda relate because this is how I was from about years 9-11 however since joining sixth form but mainly this year, my confidence feels like it’s boomed and I’ve made some great friends.
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We all go through this. Just some of us get it quicker than others, I’m 22 and still sometimes have my doubts about what I really want. It’s all about experimenting and you’ll soon find yourself on the right track 🙂
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