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You are your home

November 2, 2016

This is a concept that I have reflected upon a lot recently, and something which has only just made sense over the past month or so. I am a strong believer in putting yourself first, and something I always seem to live by is the idea that you are your home. (Shoutout to the beauty that is Orion Carloto for inspiring this very concept).

If you haven’t guessed already, this whole concept is an analogy. The idea that when all else fails, you’ve got to be the one to pick yourself up when your falling if no one else is around to help. Just like you neuter and look after a home, you are your own home and your number one priority.

Funnily enough, I am actually debating whether or not to have this as my next tattoo. It’s something which seems to relate to me on such an emotional level, and it couldn’t be more true. I have begun to make myself a priority, and it’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Nowadays, it seems like we spend our lives beating ourselves up over ‘not being good enough’ or ‘pretty enough’ when the reality of it all is that we are all good enough- especially for ourselves.

I can’t sit here and say that I still don’t have days when I feel totally worthless and simply not good enough for this world. But I find comfort in bringing myself back to reality and realising that it’s okay to be quirky. It’s okay to consider my own feelings first, and accept myself for who I am. I recently did a whole blog post on this idea entitled This is Me’ if you want to give it a browse.

To be honest with you, I am the sort of person who beats herself up about every little thing. I pin point everything wrong with me and completely spiral myself out of control. It’s really not healthy. I have began to realise, however, that I am me and I can put others first at the same time as making myself a priority. At the end of the day, you really are your own longest commitment. When my own ‘safe place’ left months ago, I was the only one who could pick myself up and bounce back stronger.

Take a deep breath and realise that you are enough. You are worthy of so much love, and it’s completely healthy to tell yourself that sometimes. When you fall, bounce back stronger. Making myself a priority is the best thing I ever did. It has enabled me to look after myself and get to a stage where I’m happy and healthy again.

You are your own home, cherish it. Find a home in yourself before you let others step into it.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca







  1. I absolutely love this, realising this concept is so important! Sometimes we forget that it’s okay to love ourselves and that it’s okay to also hate ourselves and have bad days, but that tomorrow is a new day, and that you have the ability to make that day better. I live by the saying “it’s not selfish to put yourself first sometimes” 😊 X

  2. you really do write the most powerful, inspiring, beautiful and heartfelt blogposts which I truly look forward to reading. I’m a firm believer in putting yourself first but I’ve never thought of it in this way. I’m defiantly keeping this blogpost in mine. I am my home💗

  3. Great read, I’m afraid of saying “no” to people so most of my day to day life is running around for other people and I very VERY rarely make myself a priority and if I do I find myself feeling guilty! x

  4. I love this idea! I think it’s important we all make ourselves a priority and I’ve never thought of it like this before x

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