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You don't have an endless amount of time

October 26, 2016


As dark and depressing as this may sound, I often sit there and reflect on the concept of death. About how I can make my life the best life it can be before I die. I am more than aware that life is not endless and I don’t have forever to live, so I am a strong believer in making the most of it while I’m here and while I can. I also mentioned this in my blog post on When I die.

I plan to make the most out of life, and that includes making the most of the people I love and care about the most around me. Just like you don’t live forever, neither do the people around you. A few years ago, I lost my best friend and the person I was closest to above everyone else in this world (my grandma). That’s when this concept really started to hit me and I became intrigued with the idea of making the most of people around you while they’re still here.

If you’re mad at someone for some small issue, resolve it. Forgive, and move on. In my experience, life is too short to make enemies and continue to feud with someone over something which simply won’t matter when you die. If you’re going through a hard and stressful time in your life at the moment, it’s okay. Look forward. You have so many more years left to offer this world, and so many more years to make some amazing memories which will stay with you and others.

The fact of the matter is that some things simply don’t matter. In fact, one of my most favourite pieces from Milk and Honey explores this idea really well. Your job, Where you’re sitting. At the end of the day, none of that matters. Look and seek the most important things; love, human connection, forgiveness. Trust me when I say this, you will be such a happier person for it.

A lot of people tend to question me on why I forgive, or why I try to make effort with people when they may hate me. But at the end of the day, life is too short to not take those opportunities. That person who I’m fretting over hating me could actually be an okay person. That person who requires forgiveness may have been going through a rough time to cause their actions. Forgiving and forgetting are two separate ideas; and forgiveness isn’t naive.

I don’t have a life philosophy for the fun of it. I don’t sit here and blog about positivity because I want to be some inspirational speaker that thinks we live in a world with unicorns and rainbows (although that would be pretty cool). If that’s how you perceive my blog, then that couldn’t be further from the truth. I blog about these kind of things because life is too short to not strive for them. Because life is too short to not seize opportunities, rekindle lost loves if you really want to, or to not live your life exactly how you want. You are in control of your life, no one else.

People aren’t around forever. If you want to try and get someone, go for it. If you want to wear clothes that are unique but make you feel good, go for it. If you want to tattoo your whole body, go for it. Yeah, people may judge. But at the end of the day, what do you want from life?

One of my biggest fears is living life in regret. In wishing that I applied for a ‘dream job’ when I got the chance. In not being with who I’m meant to be with because I was too stubborn to be honest when it comes to my feelings. In letting myself down, and those around me. In being a failure to myself and I certainly don’t plan on that.

My main message that I hope comes from this rambling piece of 1am writing is that life doesn’t last forever. Some things are too insignificant in this world to be fretting over and sometimes our stubborn personalities can take over us sometimes, and that’s okay (trust me, I’m so incredibly stubborn). But it’s never too late to forgive. It’s never too late to rekindle the relationship of the person you love the most and you feel you’re meant to be with. It’s never too late to change your outlook and mindset on life, and it’s never too late to start living and feel alive.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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  1. There is so much truth in what you are saying here. I think a momento mori is important to try and kick us into actually doing something before it’s too late! Thinking about death might seem a little morbid, but in fact, it’s helping us to live.

  2. YES GIRL. I’m also big of forgiveness and it’s always being seen as naive but it’s so important. Summed it up perfectly.

  3. I can relate so much to what you are saying here. I still find myself stressing over things that are not worth stressing over. I found this quote and it said “if it won’t matter in 5 years then there is no point stressing about it for more than 5 minutes ”
    -Olivia Xxxxx

    http://oliviaxalesha.com/blog

  4. This is SO true! I’m trying to remember that as much as we all say we have time, sometimes we don’t because life can be cut short. I definitely need to learn to forget. I do forgive now, which is a step in the right direction 💕

  5. I’m a firm believer of living life without regrets. I truly do have none, I think they’re pointless. Yes, I’ve done some pretty cringy things but you just need to keep going!

    Hazel – fleurcharms.co.uk

  6. I relate quite a bit with your outlook on forgiveness. I am of the mind that it not only releases the other person from my anger, but it releases me, too. To forgive is to give yourself the space to heal properly. I would much rather spend my time on earth being at peace with myself and with others. I don’t think it is naive to seek that kind of zen. While it is okay to feel out all the other emotions we are equipped with, I feel most comfortable when I am compassionate. This was a lovely post, thank you for writing it.

  7. I can agree with most of what you said here. I think for me a huge thing is rather than focusing on time, because I consider it less of a factor in my mind, I focus of living without regrets. I like to think that everything I’ve done or haven’t done because of my depression, my anxiety, my insecurities or lack thereof are things that I was meant to do and use as a stepping stone to grow and be as a person. So I view everything, good or bad, as a way of shaping me to be a person who is content with themselves and what they do and that has the same results that you seem to be achieving with your mindset.

    Posts like these are lovely, though, because I love reading about new perspectives to outlooks on life and your perspective is always so super refreshing to me. So thank you for writing posts like these and giving me another perspective.

  8. yes , yes and yes ! so true , loved this post! I’m a firm believer in living for the moment and taking each day as it comes because the truth is, we really don’t know what’s around the corner, so it’s important to not take life too seriously! x

  9. You are not alone, Becca. This is a big topic for me also. Sometimes the whole weight of it can be a bit much to bear, but you are right. We have to ensure we are present and try not to let life’s challenges overwhelm us. Lovely read, thank you.

  10. Your thoughts on forgiveness are so spot on. I have spent many years being called a ‘push over’ or ‘weak’ because I can forgive without holding a grudge. But all I have found is that I am much happier and at peace with my life and the tons of loved ones I have than those that want to hold onto hate. I don’t need to socialise with those who have wronged me but I always find a way to forgive and move on. Only you suffer otherwise.

    Also, I love they way you write. So easy to read. Thanks

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