Top tips on staying positive

July 24, 2016


Positivity: The state or character of being positive: a positivity that accepts the world as it is.

Positivity is a word we seem to use a lot, but how many people actually do live a positive lifestyle? A lifestyle in which you see the good in every situation, where you bounce off others happiness and a lifestyle in which no matter how much life seems to throw at you, you always pull through stronger. These past couple of months, I have opened my eyes to the world in a different perspective. A world where I want to make the most out of my life without being brought down by factors like my anxiety. A world where a person who leaves my life may be a positive thing after all, and a world where I just want to secure my own happiness in the long run because looking after myself, my body and my mind is my number one priority. Because I always aim to spread positive energy, I have put together some main tips below to ensure you live a more positive and liberating life!

1. Surround yourself with positive people
It’s no secret that if you surround yourself with negative energy, that’s all that you expose your life to. Positivity doesn’t just appear out of nowhere- especially if you want to achieve it in the long run. I’ve learnt that surrounding myself with negative people who do nothing but bring me down, not only prevents my positive lifestyle, but also leads me to have more anxiety and panic attacks because the negative energy makes me feel uncomfortable. It is essential that you take a step back, analyse the people who currently exist in your life, and cut those out who are simply not good for you. Whether it’s friends or otherwise, your positive mind will thank you in the long run.

2. Occasionally put on some feel good music

It may sound like a cliche, but there is in fact psychological evidence that listening to upbeat and ‘feel good’ music helps you… ‘feel good.’ I read earlier that; “In research by Ferguson and Sheldon (2013), participants who listened to upbeat classical compositions by Aaron Copland, while actively trying to feel happier, felt their moods lift more than those who passively listened to the music.” Go to your music app, put on some feel good music and watch your positive mind explode with happiness! If you’re stuck when it comes to listening to some upbeat music, my personal favourite upbeat songs at the moment are “Grown,” and “Hair” by Little Mix, “That’s My Girl” by Fifth Harmony and “Greedy” by Ariana Grande- give them a listen!

3. Tell your mind you’re happy and confident

This one is definitely easier said than done. When starting to fill my life with positive energy, I figured that it may be possible to convince my mind I was happy- similar to my mind trying to convince me that I’m not. Obviously, having anxiety means that my mind is constantly battling with itself day in and day out; trying to bring me down again and feed me with negative thoughts. However, I suddenly became empowered, happy and positive when I told my mind I was just that. What helped me was putting on some make up, feeling good about myself and just taking a step back and breathing. It honestly works wonders when you’re nice and kind to your mind.

4. Appreciate the small things in life

This is where people think I get even more preachy, however sometimes you’ve got to appreciate the smallest details which exist in this world in order to see the bigger picture in all its glory. I get excited over the smallest things, which many people may view as ‘weird’ or a total cliche. For example, the sky, visiting new places, flowers and nature, even when it rains outside. We live in such an amazing and utterly beautiful world, which deserves to be appreciated more often. It helps to sometimes take a step back, look at everything from a different angle, and fill your heart with such gratitude. There’s more to this life than constant negative energy, you just have to appreciate what it gives us, and replace the negative energy that exists with positivity. 

5. Set yourself goals and keep moving forward

I have found that the biggest reasons for my emotional downfalls is looking back and not moving forward. To put it into perspective, we have been given this amazing world, a world which most of us will be on for a very long time. You have your whole life ahead of you, and you have so many amazing experiences waiting to be discovered… right under your nose, but you just don’t realise it, yet. You can do anything in this world if you put your mind to it- the only person stopping you is yourself. Stop living your life with so many “ifs,” “buts,” and “what ifs.” Make your life the most positive and best that it can be. The world really is your oyster. 

6. Realise you’re loved

I don’t think I can emphasise this point enough. We all get caught up in dwelling over people in our life who may have hurt us, or who may have left us. But take a step back. Analyse your life, and the people in it. Pin point the amazing people who fill your life with such joy, and then no one else matters. Stop beating yourself up over people who have left, live in the present and have such gratitude for those who are currently in your life. Even better, go out there and make new friends. Believe it or not, this world is full of good and amazing people; you just have to find them. Realise that you have so many positive people in your life, and the moment you realise that is the moment your heart fills with so much love, compassion and positive energy.

7. Don’t cause your own downfall

If I got given £1 every time I did this I think I would be a millionaire. Sometimes it’s so easy to get wrapped up in negative thoughts, that we’re past looking at the positive alternative and carry on causing our own downfall ultimately. The reality is that we all have down days, we’re human so it’s going to happen. If anyone told you otherwise, they would be completely lying. But it’s how we go about these periods in our life that decides what happens. I always look at it this way, you have two choices; you can either sit and dwell over things that will bring you down, or you can fight it and look at the positive outlook. It’s hard, but I’ve found that having that state of mind of being determined that I’m going to stay happy, has minimised the amount of anxiety attacks I have rapidly. Fill your mind with things to be positive about, not the other way around.

Nothing what I have addressed above is easy. It’s taken a lot of hard work and determination for my mind to be as calm, happy and positive as it is at the moment, and of course I still have down and off days where I want to hide away and exclude myself from the world completely. But you have to keep that positive mindset, and keep the ultimate goal of long term happiness in sight. You’re a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for, and you can live a positive and healthy life if you just put your mind to it. No “ifs” or “buts.” Just determination. 

I also believe that this is the perfect time to thank you all for my amazing feedback that I have recently been given on my most recent blog posts. It makes me happy knowing I am putting my positive energy into something I love doing, and that it’s helped influence lives for the better. Your feedback really does mean so incredibly much. My heart is exploding. 

Need advice on anything? Whether it’s needing some motivation, relationship advice, or just advice in general; feel free to inbox me on Tumblr! I am so excited to start dedicating one day a week on my blog to start responding to your questions on needing advice- and spread a bit of love and positivity! (Please note: You will remain completely anonymous).

Love and happiness always,

Xo, Becca

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  1. I’m causing my own downfall right now. I’m making a lot of excuses for not doing the things I love and living the life I want. In the end, it’s all my own choice to not make these things priorities. I needed this reality check. Thank you! XOXO

    Breanna Catharina

  2. This is lovely Becca. I totally agree that the way you think about things is really important – but it can be hard to get out of that negative cycle. Appreciating the little things is a great tip. There are things to enjoy in everyday, even if you’re doing something you don’t particularly want to do. Even a good cup of tea can be something to enjoy!

  3. This is lovely Becca. I totally agree that the way you think about things is really important – but it can be hard to get out of that negative cycle. Appreciating the little things is a great tip. There are things to enjoy in everyday, even if you’re doing something you don’t particularly want to do. Even a good cup of tea can be something to enjoy!

  4. YES BECCA! All these tips are wonderful and super helpful. When it comes to appreciating the little things, I always get happy when it rains. Like when I’m in my room reading, or whether I’m watching a movie with my sisters, I love it when I look towards the window and see rain fall. It’s so weird because many people feel the exact opposite when it comes to rain; they feel sad. But me? It’s one of the best things in this world. Lovely post girl 🙂

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn’s Korner

  5. I love this post, it is really positive and inspiring. And your tips are great, listening to music often helps and so does setting goals. And reminding yourself that you are loved, although I struggle with that when I’m feeling low. But it is true and like you said, there are so many amazing people out there, we just have to go out and find them xx


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