Ignoring expectations

July 18, 2016

This world is full of expectations which, whether we realise it or not, controls us as humans and our behaviours daily. Who we can and can’t love. Who we can and can’t be friends with. Who we can and can’t talk to. What we should and shouldn’t do in each situation. Sometimes we find our lives surrounded by people who are watching and commenting on our every move. Gossip. Judgement. Expectations. I personally feel like I’m always being watched and judged over everything I do. Over who I date, or who I talk to, or who I decide to be friends with. There’s a line between looking out for someone, and being rude about the choices they make within their own life.

I have begun to realise that none of that matters. At the end of the day, who is the one who’s in your body? Who is the one who’s controlling your mind? Your life belongs to yourself, and is your own only. Forget societal expectations, or expectations of others for a moment. I am a strong believer in being in control of your own life, and doing whatever in your life which ultimately makes you the happiest. For instance, if you want to talk to that guy you’ve wanted to for so long, do it. If you want to pop up to someone and make friends with them, even if you’ve never spoken to them before, do it. If you want to rekindle lost relationships (whether that’s friendships or otherwise)… DO IT. At the end of the day, you have nothing left to loose. You have been blessed with one incredible, amazing life so make it your own.

“Say it before you run out of time. Say it before it’s too late. Say what you’re feeling. Waiting is a mistake.”

For a while now, this quote especially has really stood out to me. The whole concept of saying whatever you want to say before it’s too late is basically what I base my life around. Life is too short to miss great opportunities to tell people how special they are to you. To tell people how much you love them. Don’t live your life in regret and wishing you could’ve done things differently. Seize every opportunity to remind the important people in your life how important they actually are, because you never know when it may be too late. I realise that I’ve said this before, but randomly text your friends thanking them. Randomly text the person you love more than anything in the world that they are exactly that. You’ll feel so much better for your heart being full of such gratitude for others.

The whole concept of this blog post is that life really is too short to not live your life how you want to live it. Life is this amazing thing which has been gifted to us, and which if you think about it, we all take for granted sometimes. But if you take a step back, look at the people in your life. Look at life in general. And you know what? Too many people get caught up in what they think they should or shouldn’t say, should and shouldn’t do, and just do what you want. It’s as simple as that. Write your amazing life journey, and be proud of everything you do. Live life for yourself, and pick other’s up in the process.

I’m not at all claiming any of this is easy. Even I still get wrapped up in what I’ve been taught is the “rules” that we should live by. For instance, not messaging the boy first, or not posting 1,000 Facebook statuses because 90% of my Facebook friends probably hate my preachy posts. But, I’ve got to the point now where I simply don’t care and I’m happier for it. You know why? Because I’m happy expressing myself how I want. I’m happy living my life my own way, and I’m more than happy writing what I want on my own Facebook page, even if no one cares. If you want to write a 5,000 word essay on why Pokemon is the most amazing part of your childhood and publish it to all your Facebook friends, do it. Because nothing and no one is stopping you if you don’t let it.

*Reminder: you see that person sat reading this blog post right now? They’re in control of how they live their own happy, positive, successful life. Have no limits. Go beyond boundaries and expectations, and show people that it’s okay to be in control of your own life without being judged all the time. Do what YOU want. Live for yourself, and never regret anything. Take each opportunity you can, because life is a learning process, not a game. 
Love & happiness always,

xo, Becca

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